Useful & Effective ‘Parenting Tips’ For First Time Parents

Parenting Tips For First Time Parents

Parenting Tips For First Time Parents Children – You can’t live with them. And then again, you can’t live without them either. As parents, most of us tend to try anything and everything possible to train our kids at an early age itself. This decision, according to us, would make our kids independent, courageous and smart in the long run; and would give us plenty of free time to divert our attention to other tasks at hand as well.

The problem though, arises when we find out that training our kids is not as simple as we thought it would be. For each child is different in his/her own perspective; and one method of training would not necessarily work for two or more kids in the same household. And most of the time, we tend to fall into particular loopholes (of wrong parenting) when trying to train our little ones the basics of life.

So if you are a new parent and are desperately in search of some trips and tricks to train your toddler, here are some loopholes you need to steer clear off when bringing up your little ones.

Being Unpredictable

The first thing you would need to avoid while bringing up your kid is the habit of inconsistency. If your kid is unable to predict the consequences of certain actions, he/she may not be able to understand what he/she needs to do in such situations.

For example, if you have a predictable nap time, your kid will understand what he/she needs to do as and when his/her nap time arrives. Accordingly, if he/she knows or is able to predict what would happen if he/she misbehaves, he/she would tend to become more resilient and agreeable to your conditions.

What you Should do Instead

Instead of having irregular routines and actions like inconsistent nap times, study times or the course of action when your little one misbehaves, plan out and fix regular, consistent and determined routines that would not be compromised under any circumstances.

Watching TV

Letting your kid watch TV all day long while you finish your chores is not considered a good practise at all. It has been found out that kids below 2 years of age would not be able to comprehend what he/she sees on the screen and would most probably be overwhelmed by the same. It has also been found out that kids who tend to watch too much TV find it difficult to concentrate on things, let alone learn them later on.

What you Should do Instead

If your kid really loves to watch TV, stick to just one favorite show which you can let him/her watch for a stipulated time before you switch it off. Keep him/her occupied by more creative activities like coloring, reading, story telling or conversing.

Sticking to Mashed Kiddie Food

Believe me! If your kid gets used to eating kiddie food (mashed), he/she would probably not like to eat any other kind of food as he/she grows up. Alternatively, kids who like to eat junk food like chips, fries and chicken fingers tend to neglect other foods (they eat the same only if you force feed them).

What you Should do Instead

It would take some time, but would be well worth the time and effort at the end. Start practising the habit of eating with the family. Encourage him/her to try out foods that both you and his/her father like to eat.

If he/she keeps pushing back a particular food from his/her plate, keep putting it back on his/her plate until he/she tastes a bit. Don’t push him/her too much though; for the harder you push, the more resistant he/she would become.

Sometimes it pays to offer them a helping of their favorite foods if they promise to eat what is offered to them beforehand. I don’t know about others but this trick worked swell for me.

Sleeping with Mom and Dad

Now this is a common issue with several parents out there who find it extremely difficult to get their kids adjusted to the practise of sleeping in their own beds.

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What they don’t know however is that it is they who set the pattern for these issues by forcing their kids out of their cribs too soon.

What you Should do Instead

If your child is used to sleeping in his/her own crib, don’t force him/her out of it until he/she becomes too big for it, or starts to climb out of it. Don’t try to force him/her to sleep in a large bed by himself/herself from day one onwards.

Stay with him/her until he/she drifts off to sleep and leave the room silently. If he/she cries out for you, stay with him/her for some more time (don’t pick him/her up though) before you leave the room again. Increase the time duration between your visits to his/her room until he/she no longer requires your presence to fall asleep.

Potty Training Him/Her Too Soon

It’s a fast paced world out there, and some parents find it completely natural to expect their children to learn to use the toilet at an early age itself, even if the kids are not ready to use them. And sometimes, this leads to nasty reprimands that generally leave the child confused and upset.

What you Should do Instead

Leave your child be. He/she would generally learn to use the toilet when he/she feels comfortable doing so. While some kids prefer potty seats, others prefer to use the toilet directly. Teach your kid the basics of using the toilet and wait for him/her to get used to the same.

Tantrum Control

This is one of the major issues faced by parents as their children cross 3 years of age. Children at this age and above generally start throwing tantrums for the most mundane of issues. And a public spectacle would make the tantrum all the more embarassing as we feel millions of eyes glaring at us as we desperately try to control our kids.

Tantrums are quite common in kids, especially school going ones who get the habit by watching other kids get away with their same. What parents need to know however, is that controlling a tantrum, especially a public one does not warrant corporate punishment. Alternatively, there are several other ways in which a kid’s tantrum can be controlled.

What you Should do Instead

If your kid starts throwing a tantrum in public, take him/her to a comparatively solitary place and let him/her go on with his outburst without acting emotionally to the same. Once he/she calms down, give him/her a hug and move on as if nothing happened.

Sometimes parents feel that repeated explanations would help control a kid’s outbursts. On the contrary, this would actually intensify the issue instead of pacifying it. Continued talks can lead to persuasions, threats and finally spanks, something you would want to avoid. So whenever your kid starts throwing a tantrum, do what is best; remain silent and ignore him/her until he/she realises that this particular behavior would not have any affect on you.

Sending Out the Wrong Signals

As much as your child depends on you, sometimes he/she needs to be left alone in order to learn things himself/herself. Offering to help him/her at these instances would actually send off the impression that he/she is incompetent to do things on his/her own. And sometimes, he/she may misinterpret your act and end up asking for your help for even the simplest of tasks.

What you Should do Instead

Do not offer continuous help. Let him/her become independent and self reliant on his/her own accord. This doesn’t mean you need to stop helping him/her altogether. Offer help only in situations where you feel your toddler would not be able to cope with the situation or issue.

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