The initial spark is one of the most exciting parts about a new relationship. People are unable to keep their hands to themselves because they are so lusty. However, with the elapsing of time, the intense sexual desires go to embers from strong flames, even though people become closer emotionally. Here are some tips on falling in love all over again and keeping that spark alive in a relationship, even after years of being together or even being married-
Talking It Out
Communication is crucial for healthy and happy relationships. Even if it’s only ten minutes, find the time to talk to your partner and open up your feelings. You will not be able to communicate in the bedroom if you are unable to communicate in the lounge or the kitchen.
It is essential that people share their sexual fantasies because it can prove to be a huge turn on. Tell your partner your biggest sexual fantasy and also ask for theirs. Sometimes it can prove to be highly erotic to hear your partner tell you what their sexual fantasy is. Set down a rule that you will have a romantic weekend every month and either ask your parents to watch over the children or get a babysitter to mind them. Plan the weekend in such a way that you can fulfill each others sexual fantasies. Your sex life will become immensely better even with this break of two days.
Learn To Do Things Together
The biggest downside of long term relationships is that people get involved in their own lives and do less and less things with their partners. Three to five times every week, indulge in activities that you and your partner can do together. It can be anything from cooking a meal together to going for a bike ride. Go to shop or even for a walk. Your shared experience will bring you two closer and help you bond over as well.
Comparing your sex life with that of others is a huge mistake. Yes, there are couples who have sex seven times in a single week, but you don’t have to be that way to get the spark. Keep in mind that every couple is different. You’ll end up getting exhausting if you try to match yourself with others. Sex life is bound to change as the relationship starts growing. Don’t worry if you and your partner are happy. Moreover, couples who brag about having sex twice daily can also be lying. Comparison is unrealistic because you aren’t aware of the ins and outs of their relationship. Don’t worry about others and focus on your own sex life.
Take Classes Together
Join interesting and sexy classes together such as yoga, dancing, cooking or massage. Opt for anything that’s new and enjoyable for both of you and have fun. Classes could be based on counselling or therapy but the idea is that they should help you spend quality time time together. You can also take up any activity that you both had been wanting to try together but never really found the time to do so like salsa or even
Get your partner a small gift every once in a while. Plan a holiday, but keep the location a complete surprise. Just tell your partner to get their passport and pack. Make reservations to a new restaurant, but keep it a surprise. The aim is to keep things a surprise as much as possible. A surprise doesn’t have to really burn a hole in your pocket. Simple things like watching a flick together or taking them out for a drive without any notice are things that will cheer them up.