For most people, a first date brings around a lot or nervousness, and this happens to be a normal phase and normal step for people. You should not at any cost feel awkward or self-conscious about being nervous. The primary objective is to “know thyself,” in other words the better you know yourself, the easier it will be for you to overcome the predicament of nervousness on a first date.
In fact, some people also believe that being nervous on a first date means you are a good person and quite considerate about this date. This can be a very good sign for the other partner because every one likes to have a partner who is caring and considerate.
The nervousness factor happens for both men and women, as such you should not think that what if the other person is not nervous at all. In any case nervousness is a good sign but you cannot, in any case, let it get in the way of this date. You must remember that you are going on this date because you like the other person and would like to see him or her again. As such you must retain all self-esteem, self-confidence, and courage you can to go make the best first impression. In order to be completely ready for a first date and deal with you nervousness there are a few home tips that you can consider before hand.
Having a Pep Talk
What are your friends for? Call one or two of them over and explain to them how nervous you are feeling about this date. In such a scenario either of your friends can be the other person you are to meet and you can have a “mock date” at home. This way it would be easier for you to visualize and get a sense of what this date might be like. As such you be on the right track of knowing what to expect and what not to expect. Be serious about this pep talk, as your friend the question you would ask your date. Act completely as if you were on that date. The better you act it out before hand, the better you will feel at your date. This goes for both guys and girls because there is no harm or shame in having a pep talk.
Choose a Comfortable Place for the Date
Do not choose a heavy metal or a rock bar or club because unless you both are influenced by this kind of music it would disastrous for the date. Even if you do like the metal scene, for a first date it is not a good option because the music is so loud you will not be able to communicate. Choosing the right place for a first date is very important because it has to be just right. Do not choose a place where you visit all the time because it is unfair that you get to be in a very familiar place and the other person not.
As such choose a place that looks nice, feels nice and comfortable so that you can both feel at ease. In addition to that you both feeling a little strange in the new place would be something common between the two of you. The most important thing for you is to be realistic. Do not choose a place that is above your budget, because showing off will not help. Choose a nice place that is in your budget so she gets to know who you are as a person. Showing off will only help you last one date and nothing more.
Play Upbeat Music
If you are a guy and picking the girl up for the date in your car then you can choose to play some very soothing yet upbeat music. Choose music that would help excite you about this date and make you feel upbeat. Play it at a decibel that is friendly to the ears. You can choose to play jazz or pop music as they are both great for setting the right mood. It is also a great idea to let the girl decide what the music should be because this way you will make her feel comfortable very much inclusive in the date. It would also be a great way to help break the ice and the tension, not to mention the nervousness.
Date Talk – What to Talk About?
A lot of people waste their time in thinking about what they want to ask, and while they may have some ideas, the concept of thinking that the ideas are stupid holds them back from asking anything. Do not be shy, because this is your first date and if you do not say anything, well then, that is the impression your partner is going to make of you. Ask her simple questions such as:
1. Where did you grow up?
2. Do you have any siblings?
3. What does your name mean?
4. What is your favorite music?
5. What are your hobbies? Etc.
These are the most common questions that can be asked and answered back and worth and are great because they will help you understand the other person a lot. Talking about music and movies is one of the best ways to get rid of all the nervousness because these two are things everybody does. In addition to that you can find the common paths that you two have and have endless discussions on that.
A Good End Means a Second Date
Presuming the date has gone really well and you have something planned for after dinner, then it natural to feel nervous about it as well. As such the best thing to do is to ask the girl if she would be interested in doing so, if she is then great, but if she isn’t then maybe she just wants to save it for later. In any case, be cheerful, offer to drop her home and tell her that you hope to see her soon. Remember the more you communicate in simple terms, the better it will be for you.
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