Relationships are hard to maintain and require a certain amount of maturity and responsibility. Depending on what age you are, your perception of a relationship can be very different. For some it is primarily focused on the physical aspect and gaining sexual pleasures. For some; however it is mostly about being mentally and emotionally intimate rather than the physical.
The type of relationship; however, that tends to be the most successful is where the physical is not given a lot of important but the mental and emotional is. And as two people involved get closer to each other the physical aspect automatically heightens the love and bond the two people share. If you are 16 then chances are that you are likely to be more infatuated with your partner than in love, even though love and infatuation are very closely related and often misinterpreted. If you are 25, and in a relationship, things might be different as you maybe looking to commit to the person and perhaps settle down. A very monotonous and overwhelming predicament more than often arises in relationships that does cause a lot of break ups. This is the problem of sex. While it is very possible that in a relationship, one partner might feel ready to take the next step and have sex, the other person might not. In a situation of no compromise and stubbornness, break ups happen very easily. It can also be the case when both the partners feel ready for sex; however they also feel that it is important to let the emotional and mental feelings develop to a greater extent first. In such scenarios, it is best to de able to delay sex as much as possible so that you get closer and more prepared for it, because sooner or later sex will happen, and when it does, it would much, much better for you both.
A sleepover with your partner is a very intimate and personal activity. Being in closed quarters at night with the person you are very much attracted to and perhaps maybe in love with as well is the perfect chance to lose yourself into having sex. Have self-control and if you are at your partner’s place for a date or a meal, then it is best to just spend a little amount of time after the meal or date and then go home. It may seem like the wrong decision but once your hormones take a breath, you will realize it was the right decision for the both of you.
For a lot of young couples having a free house with the parents away is a very golden opportunity for sexual activities. This is not the brightest of ideas, especially if the clock is ticking. This is because you will both be under pressure and constantly thinking of when the parents might come back. In addition to that hurrying through sex, especially your first time, or any other time is a very bad idea, simply because it is a very intimate activity that requires time and loving.
Control Your Alcohol
Consuming alcohol means losing self-control and the ability to make logical judgments. In such scenarios the hormones also tend to rise and being with your partner things feel very right. As such it is important to be able to control yourself. And if you are trying to delay sex then the best option is to never consume excess alcohol just with your partner and be alone. This is because things can get out of hand very easily in terms of sex, after being drunk. So go for casual drinking and be sure you are sober enough to return home. It is also very important for you to remember that even if it feels right to have sex during a state of intoxication, if you cross that line, there is never any turning back.
Be Honest and Never Lie and Communicate
Honesty is very important, so if being the girl you do not feel ready enough to engage in having sex with your partner then be honest with him. Lies are hurtful and dangerous to the dynamics of a relationship. As such sit down with your partner, talk everything through. Explain as to why you do not feel ready yet. It is also important for you to provide your partner with logical and reasonable reasons and causes as to why you want to hold off. You both need to mutually understand each other’s limits on sexual activities and respect them so that even if you are hot in bed, you always know where to draw the line at.
Be Romantic and Keep the Romance Alive
Just because you are delaying sex does not mean you are not allowed to do anything else. Being physical is very important in a relationship because it helps the two people get closer and closer. It is the icing of the cake after the mental and emotional bonding. As such do whatever you feel like doing together as a couple in bed, but just be strong and always remember the point of no return so that you stop whatever you are doing before you reach that point. It is very easy to lose oneself in the heat of the moment, but it is not worth it unless you are ready. Keep the romance alive in your relationship, always.
Sex is a mutual activity and no can be or rather, should be forced into doing it. For a lot of people sex is quite a great deal, and even though sex is overrated and exaggerated, a person needs to feel ready and prepared in order to go through with. This is applicable for boys and girls. In many parts of the world, even married couples wait a while before getting sexually engaged. Considering that having sex at 14 is quite drastic. As such be honest with yourself and your partner and try to delay sex until you are ready, because that is when it would be the most pleasurable and mean the most.