Raising a child is never a child’s play, but with the changing times, young parents are facing challenges that can completely redefine the concepts of parenting. Gone are the days when parents dealt with “children”, innocent souls and minds that were eager to make their parents happy and would be grateful for a toffee. Most Y-generation parents today are dealing with individuals with a mind of their own. A toffee is no longer appreciated and appreciation is expected and not earned.
Effective Parenting Tips
Difficulty to Adapt to the Changing Trends
Talking about the children today; they are competitive, strong headed, small minds with big egos, attitude problems, short tempered, and at times they show low self esteem due to a variety of factors.They do not want to share anything, least with parents and can be secretive about the stress situations that they are facing. A child could be a bully at school or another one who is submissive, all these problems can be overcome with the right Parenting.So, what is the correct style of parenting? Again parenting, according to me, cannot be right or wrong. It is situational and extremely relative. Every parent needs to understand their children and then decide how they could get close and create a healthy relationship between them. However, a few things that the parents need to keep in mind are discussed below.
Avoid Communication Gap
Parents should realize that at no time the communication with the child be hindered. Most of the time, it is seen that as a form of punishment, parents resort to stopping communication with the child, they stop talking. It might have worked a few years back, but an understanding that today’s children are sensitive and not talking to them might only inflict more bitterness in them, it is advisable for parents to keep the communication on. Talking to them, understanding as to why they behaved in a particular way. Trying to know what is happening at school, learning what is going on in their heads is important. And all this can only be achieved with good communication.
Bonding at the Child’s Best
Remember, children are very comfortable in an environment that is known to them. Also they will be at their happiest doing things they love. Thus, bonding with children over their favourite book or indulging in their favourite sport could help ease the parent-child relationship. On a weekend just have fun with your child scribbling with colours or painting. Parents of a girl child can take her help in the kitchen and she will totally love it. When the child is happy it becomes easier for the parents to convey whatever they want to and the child will also feel relaxed in sharing his thoughts.
Punish Lovingly and Indulge Strictly
In pursuit of being a friend it must not be forgotten that parents have to create a sense of discipline in their children. Along with winning their love, respect has to be commanded as well. Parents are the first people that a child learns to respect and this shouldn’t be compromised. Striking the right balance is very important to keep the relationship healthy. Give them small tokens of appreciation when they show good behaviour and teach them the right behaviour by being strict. Remember even at times when we have to punish the child, we can do it lovingly. Never make comparisons, whether with siblings or friends. Each child is unique in their own way and as parents you have to respect that.
Comparisons tend to make a child feel low and can harbour ill feelings for the person he/she is being compared to. Be friendly to your child, lay down rules, make them confident and strong, humble and honest. Remember parenting is not about inculcating the correct values; it is about enriching your child with the values, correctly.