At times, children do not behave in an appropriate manner. However, when they consistently behave poorly, repeatedly become disobedient, cheeky or aggressive and often break rules at home and school, it can be called a behavior problem. Such bad behavior can frustrate and challenge the parents. Children of all ages can have behavioral problems. According to “kids health”, inconsistent discipline often is the cause of bad behavior. Many life changes and incidents in child’s life like parent’s separation or divorce and parents’ transfer from one city to other can also cause behavior problems. You need to understand the emotions of your child. May be he/she doesn’t know how to deal with them. Parents can help them to learn to behave properly by making some simple changes in their discipline style.
Tips To Handle Child Behavior Problem
Understand Your Child’s Emotions And Find Out The Underlying Cause of His/Her Misbehaving
Your sincere concern, love and support may help your child to open up. Empowering them with positive choices is the parent’s prime responsibility. Only scolding and punishing them will not help to change their behavior.
Start Setting Limits Early
Communicate what you expect from him/her clearly and enforce them consistently. You can even set rules and let your child know how he/she is supposed to behave. But only setting rules won’t help. Respond to his/her good or bad behavior every time so that your child understands that his every action is observed seriously and neither you ignore his/her misbehavior and nor forget to appreciate his good behavior. In this way your child will learn to behave properly from the very beginning.
Reward Your Child For His/Her Good Behavior
Your appreciation, love and encouragement for doing right things will inspire him to behave in a disciplined manner. In the same way, punish him/her when he/she behaves poorly. But choose punishment that is appropriate for his/her age to make them understand that you will not tolerate poor behavior. Be kind but firm and send him the message that his indiscipline behavior will not help him to get whatever he wants with your calm composed and consistent behavior. He must understand that his behavior is completely unacceptable and if he continues misbehaving, he will surely face the consequences he has been told.
Watch Your Own Conduct And Behavior
Child usually copies the word and action of his parents. Be an exemplary model; behave at home, in the neighborhood, in the society the way you want your child to behave and interact with others. For small kids aged between 2 to 5 years, using time out is a good idea to correct their bad behaviors like tantrums, whining or crying and arguing etc. Put your child in a corner for few minutes and stop speaking to him/her. Little older children can get corrected by taking away things like TV, video game or not allowing playing for some time. Make him/her understand that his/her behavior was bad, not he/she himself. Don’t criticize your child in front of neighbors, friends and relatives. Do not scold too often. They can become habitual of being scolded and start ignoring you. If you are living a healthy and well-mannered life with calm and composed behavior, you will able to incorporate good values and manners and your child will never show behavior problem.