It is understood that sex between two people is the most intimate activity there is. This is because sex is an event where the reproductive parts of the persons involved meet and experience very ecstatic feelings and emotions. They cannot be translated into words or expressed in any way, shape, or form other than saying that they are sexual pleasures. All men and women from the beginning of their teenage years start having these urges to explore their sexuality in a lot ways.
Sex happens to be the most extreme and the most pleasurable one for everyone. As such doing it brings a lot of satisfaction and enjoyment to people. However sex is also very overrated and there are a lot many perfectly happy couple in the world without having had sex at all. It can be hard to understand this is if you have never been in a relationship without sex; however it is very true.
When it comes to physical intimacy, people get very confused because for most, sex is intimate. Yes, this is true, and while sex is intimate, people must also know and remember that there are a lot of levels of physical intimacy in a relationship. The most basic one being holding hands. This is also an act of physical intimacy, and while some may regard it as futile, silly, and childish, it is in fact frowned upon in a lot of cultures around the world.
Anyhow, one need not have sex to achieve physical intimacy in a relationship. Sex is a quite a big deal for people, especially girls and if they are not ready then forcing them into it is a very shameful act on your part. As such respect their decisions and choices. In turn, explore and find other ways to be physically intimate with your partners. There are four
Experiencing First Base
If it is your first date, then it is time for observing the color of her eyes and perhaps the way she smiles. It is not the time for picturing her body naked. As for the girl, it is important to notice how the guy behaves generally and not if he is demanding in bed. If you two cannot find a level of compatibility with each other right at the beginning then it is futile wondering anything else. As such the first base is when you meet and hug each other for the first time.
Or even if you are meeting after a two-month vacation, and you have missed each other so much that you just keep on hugging for 5 minutes. This is intimacy at its best. This is the moment where you simply love the presence of each other in your lives and not sex. This is how you can avoid sex, by understanding the value of the other person in your life.
In addition to that kissing is the main part of the first base. It is when you two kiss so passionately that nothing else seems to matter. Your kisses are just so passionate that you feel like wanting to hold time still in order to be able to preserve this moment as it is. Hugging, holding hands, and kissing each other are the main parts of first base.
Maturing to Second Base
This where the couple starts to sexually mature a little. While the clothes remain on, the guy and the other girl can start to gradually make gentle and slow movements towards each other’s upper body parts. Such as for the guy it would be touching the girl’s neck, shoulders, and breasts. As for the girl it would be touching the guy’s chest, neck, and shoulders. Depending on how you feel, sliding hands under the clothes can also be considered a part of the second base; however this depends on the couple’s personal preference. Touching sexual parts directly with hands is not a part of this base.
The sexual tension increases dramatically as you touch each other on top of the clothes because there is a great to want to get rid of the clothes. However the more you cherish these moments with patience the better you will feel afterwards. Also, in the second base lying down on the bed in each other’s arms is also very common and considered intimate. The main point is to remember where you are and where you should stop at.
Understanding and Enjoying Third Base
The third base is the final stop before being sexually intimate with each other in terms of having sexual intercourse. This is the base where a couple takes the opportunity to take each other’s clothes off. In addition to that fondling with the breasts, sucking, and licking them is all added here. Giving vaginal orgasms, clitoral orgasms, anal foreplay, hand jobs, and blowjobs are all part of the third base.
This is considered a very risky place, because it is very sexually aggressive and if both the partners are not very strong willed then it is very easy to lose control and hit the point of no return. As such in order to avoid having sex yet be physically intimate, the best option is to lie together naked and not sexually arouse each other beyond a certain point. Kissing is of course a very good idea as it will maintain the closure and love.
As one can understand the fourth base or “home base” as it is commonly referred to is the one where intercourse takes place. However the aim here is to be physically intimate without having sex. As such the three bases are more than enough adventure for anyone to keep busy with for a very long time. Exploring and understanding your partner in all sorts of ways is a very deep and intimate process that will take a lot of time. As such it is best to stay off sex and otherwise be physically intimate till the time and moment is right for the both of you.