Parenting is never easy when it comes to toddlers. This is a crucial time as they cross the threshold of infancy to childhood. Disciplining your child is your primary concern. It can mould your child to be a confident child or break him/her to be a diffident child.
Tips For Dealing With Toddler Behaviour
Communication is The Key
Your child is now at the age where they can understand the limits and boundaries set up. Communicate with them. Explain the consequences of actions. Your child throws a tantrum in the super market demanding a particular brand of cola; to avoid public embarrassment you give in.
But, this is not acceptable behaviour. Bring the child home and explain why you do not want him/her to have the particular drink at that time. Children are very perceptive, they appreciate the effort you put in explaining things to them. Get through a clear message that such behaviour will not be tolerated in the future.
Rewards and Reprimands
You can start a reward and reprimand system where in every good task is rewarded with a small gift or any other token of appreciation. Any tantrum or mischief will also be duly noted. You can start by making your child sit in a naughty corner for 5 minutes giving him to think about his actions and apologise.
You can cut some privileges like TV time for half an hour or dessert after lunch. Make a Goodie point chart and fix it on your fridge. Every good deed adds a + and every misdeed counts as a minus. This will make the child take stock of his behaviour. Keep a personal score and reward him if the pluses are more.
Be Patient With Your child
You have to be patient when you discipline your child. The child might repeat the same mischief again or answer back. Give time for him to understand the consequences of his action and adapt himself.
You have to be consistent in correcting your child. You cannot give in to tantrums at times and discipline the child at other times. Set the boundaries for them and expect them to respect it at all times. Some parents do not discipline the child when grandparents are there not wanting to ruin the family time. An unacceptable behaviour is not to be accepted at all times.
Choose the Right Words
You have to be careful about the words you use while admonishing the child. You might be angry or frustrated at the child’s behaviour but never use harsh words. A child’s mind is like a sponge and unpleasantness has a way of leaving a lasting impression there.
Avoid Comparisons and Public Rebuke
You must not compare your child with another even when it is a sibling. Parents often use the phrase ‘your sister/brother was not like this at this age’ thinking that it is a positive motivation for change but often it produces a negative result. It might result even in the friction between both the children with one eyeing the other as competition.
Nurture your child at this age; give them the love and security to bloom to their fullest of potential.