Anger is an extreme emotion that is felt by most human beings at some or the other. This is why it is important to be understanding when you have a child who has anger issues.
He/she is a perfectly normal child even if he/she tends to throw violent tantrums out of anger. In such a situation it is essential to dig deeper and find out the real cause of the problem. Let us now discuss the fundamental causes of childhood anger and simple behavior management methods that can help you and your child overcome it.
Dealing With Angry Children
Children And Anger
Kids are just like adults when it comes to feeling certain emotions and thoughts. The only difference is how they choose to display them to others. When a child is hurt or frustrated, the only way he/she might be able to show it is by being angry. He/she is not mature enough to differentiate between different situations and feelings. It is up to you as a parent to help them negotiate through the tough journey of growing up.
The significant difference between anger and aggression should always be kept in mind. Anger is just an emotion that a person feels while aggression is violent behavior that affects other people. An angry child does not necessarily have to be branded as being aggressive. Even if he/she is upset about something, he/she may choose to show it through other ways rather than violent behavior.
Learn To Tolerate
It is not necessary for you as a parent or guardian to admonish your child each time he/she displays anger and frustration. Learn to ignore and tolerate certain instances of bad behavior. If you scold your kid every time he/she does something wrong, he/she will learn to ignore your advice and punishments, if any. Ignoring anger sometimes will also prove to your child that this is not the correct way to seek attention from parents.
Say No Only If You Mean It
When you do not approve of certain behavior and don’t want your child to repeat the same, say no firmly. But remember that you should not say no to everything.
Reserve this statement only when you truly mean it and the situation really bothers you. Don’t backtrack or waver from what you have asked your child to do. Your child will soon learn that being angry does not mean that all of his/her wishes will be fulfilled.
Always Notice And Praise
Every time your child does something in accordance with your wishes or behaves well in general, show your appreciation. Make sure your child knows that you noticed the good behavior and are happy about it. This will induce him/her to control extreme emotions and repeat the same thing next time as well.
Keep The Child Busy
The saying “empty mind is a devil’s workshop” is very true. The more free time a child has the more the chances of inappropriate behavior being displayed.
You need to channel your child’s talents and energy to do something constructive. This will give him/her more opportunities to behave well and earn praise.