Arranged marriages are considered no less than a gamble, especially for women. Two strangers come together, judge each other on face value and decide whether or not to spend the rest of their lives together. If the stars are kind, an arranged holy unison blossoms in prosperity and joy. Otherwise, one haste decision is enough to haunt anyone for the rest of his or her life.
So, how does a woman make sure that the man she is getting to know is, indeed, her better half? What are the factors she must consider before proceeding ahead with a prospective match? Read on to find out.
Here Are 8 Ways To Judge A Man For An Arranged Marriage:
The Face Value
It is said that mere 10 seconds are enough to judge a person as one’s face is his or her true identity. It is a mirror reflecting the insides of a person. As far as marriages are concerned, great looks might not matter too much to a woman but what actually matters is the warmth of a face. A generous laughter, sincere eyes and a genuine smile are a few quick giveaways of the true nature of a man. Women should always look for genuineness in a man’s persona.
How a man dresses speaks volumes of his conduct and personality. A tacky, over-the-top or a too casual dress-up is a big turn off for women. At the same time, being under-dressed for the first meet also manifests lack of seriousness on the part of a man. So, while judging a person a girl must not forget to observe closely how the prospect is dressed. A smart and formal outfit of a man should certainly invoke a tick mark in his favor in a girl’s booklet.
General Etiquette and Communication Skills
How chivalrous a man is towards a woman also reflects his character. Don’t expect a man to run across the car and open its door for you, but at least expect him to offer you to enter first and be seated. The way a man converses with a girl is important. If a man becomes too carefree and friendly in the first meet, it betrays a sense of nonchalance in him. An ideal first conversation should preferably be constrained, precise and general.
Approach Towards Life and Compatibility
It is essential for women to try and peel out the true attitude of a man. How he deals with problems in life; his vision towards his future; his goals, dreams and aspirations; people who matter to him in his life and the role he expects his partner to play in his life are all some important matters which will certainly give a woman a fair idea of a man’s psyche. Holding such a discussion will certainly help a woman see through the soul of a man.
Post First Meeting Factors
It is obvious that every man will put his best foot forward during the first meet. Why would he reveal his shortcomings? That is why it is imperative for women to not be hasty in making a decision. A woman should certainly expect some more positive signs from the boy after the first meet. A courtesy call, an ‘it-was-a-pleasure-meeting-you’ message or receiving general pleasantries from a man after meeting are counted among a his positives.
Receptiveness to Complex Discussions
Marriage, being the most important decision of one’s life, solicits absolute transparency and candidness. Women should unfailingly discuss every substantial subject from career to kids as clearly as possible. Nothing should be left on chance. Also, the manner in which a man responds to the queries and his receptiveness towards contemplating complex issues shows to a great extent his level of maturity and attitude. A man who encourages openness is certainly worth considering.
The So-Called Past
‘Past’ is one dreaded word in delicate alliances such as marriages. 99% of the people omit details of their past relationships and involvements. But, undeniably, almost everyone has a past too. So, try and test muddy waters cautiously by touching the subject of each other’s past. The conservatism and orthodoxy of a man can be judged in a jiffy based on his ability to accept the earlier involvements of a girl. However, if a girl is herself not sure about discussing her past, she must not tread the treacherous path and keep the conversations simple and straight.
It is a saying that no two people get married only, but two families. A girl should certainly observe a man and his family’s behavior towards her folks. A well-cultured man is the one who always attempts to forge a strong bonding of mutual love and respect between the two families as well. Such a man is no less than a catch.