Children learn certain habits at a very young age. While some of these traits may be good, others like sneakiness may be bad. As a parent, it is your responsibility to handle these issues in the best possible manner without physically or psychologically affecting your kid in any way. A sneaky child can be hard to handle, especially if you let his/her habit grow with him/her. So here are some effective tips on how you can handle your kid and curb his/her sneaky behavior effectively.
Here Are 6 Ways To Handle A Sneaky Child:
Stop Pressurizing Them
There is no doubt that kids today are pressurized to excel in every field ranging from education and sports to behavior. In most cases, it is the more pressurized children who end up telling lies and developing a sneaky behavior. These kids act so in an act of desperation in order to cover their tracks in case they fail to meet the expectations levied on them by their parents. So stop pressurizing your kids unnecessarily and instead, create a warm and understanding environment for them wherein they know that it would be ok to not be the best at times. This would also pave the way for them to tell you the truth and face the consequences rather than sneak around it.
Create a Comfortable Environment
They say parents have to be their kids’ best friends. The first step to making that possible is to create a comfortable environment for them. Dealing with them in a comfortable manner while sharing stuff, even sensitive information would enable them to be more open to you when it comes to speaking the truth. If you create a harsh, cold environment for them at home, trust them to not come forward and speak to you. They would only get sneakier with time.
Supervise but don’t Control
Although many experts advocate that it is wise to leave kids to themselves, parents should have the responsibility to supervise them at regular intervals. For instance, simply asking your kids whether they are doing their homework and then simply taking their word for it while you watch your favorite soaps is not going to reinforce a positive behavior. Once your kids find out you are least interested in what they are doing, they would tend to deviate from their chores and lie when you ask about the same as well. So make it a point to supervise them regularly without seeming too dominant or suspicious. This would give your kids the message that you would check on them, thereby encouraging them to curb their sneaky habit.
Call a Spade a Spade
Your child may lie under different circumstances. No matter what the situation may be, call a spade a spade; or in this case a lie a lie. Don’t always wait for the right opportunity to talk to him/her about his/her sneaky behavior. Rather, it is pertinent that you call it as and when your child does lie so that you can counsel him/her to understand that lies would get him/her nowhere. This would also give them the impression that they would need to speak the truth no matter what.
Don’t Set Standards
The greatest mistake most parents do when handling their sneaky children is that they set standards for their behavior. For instance, telling something like, “It’s not like he/she robbed a bank”, or “I know some kids who are worse than him/her” will not set the right example for him/her at all. In fact, it would only create a standard on which they base their behavior. So the next time you catch your kids sneaking around or lying, they would be quick to respond to your questions with these same comments.
Practice What You Preach
And finally! In order to stop your kids’ sneaky behavior, you need to stop being sneaky yourself. Of course you may say you’re not. But asking your kids to shoo away that pesky neighbor by saying that you are not at home is setting an example for them to sneak around when they don’t want you to catch them. So if you want your kids to stop lying and being sneaky, be 100% truthful, at least in front of them.